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Has life paralyzed you?

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My wife and I were recently discussing the impact that her father’s death has had on her mother. Married for over fifty-six years, she has never recovered from the death of her soulmate five years ago.

Nearing eighty years of age and in very good physical health, she still goes to the store, still goes to church, still does a few of the things she’s always done. The difference however is that while she may still function at a certain level, in essence she stopped living the same day that he did.

Gone is the joy, the spark of life, the passion for living.

Of course, everyone processes grief and trauma differently, and it’s for certain that one can never place a time frame on how long it will take to begin really living life again. What must become our “new normal” takes time to adjust to, and we are all on a different clock in that regard.

Let’s face it, life will sometimes put you in a difficult place. Whether because of your own actions and choices, or those of others, the end result may find you incapacitated emotionally or physically.

In my own life for example, I still vividly remember the day my father passed away. As a 12-year-old boy who thought his dad was Superman, I was devastated beyond words. I remember like it was yesterday the feeling of numbness that enveloped me.

Little did I know that this feeling would last for many months, and in some ways for years.  Nothing was the same, nor would it ever be again.

I was hurt, bitter, depressed, and angry. That one event haunted me for many years, even well into adulthood. I cannot begin to tell of the poor decisions I made in life, many of which I want to think could have been avoided had my dad still been alive to guide me.

I struggled for many years with being able to deal with my emotions regarding the loss of my father. In those days, one didn’t go to a psychologist or therapist for advice or treatment. My “therapy” consisted of being told to ‘suck it up’ and get on with my life.

So, ‘suck it up’ I did, immersing myself in work, the lives of my kids, and anything else that would help me to move on from the pain of my loss. For several years I worked two jobs, including weekends and nights in a vain attempt to keep my mind busy so I wouldn’t have to continually replay the thoughts of what was, and what could have been.

At some point in our lives however, we come to a fork in the road where a decision must be made. Either we stay in a place of despair, or we climb out and begin to live again. For me, that happened when at 22 years of age I gave my life to Jesus.

Only then did I realize that God had a purpose and a plan for my life after all.

I learned that if I were ever going to overcome adversity, I had to learn to trust again. And that trust started with the Lord. I had to learn to lay aside the hurt and anguish that was consuming my life and grab hold of something much bigger than I, trusting that He knew better than I what was best.

Bit by bit, I came to see ” that the Lord is good; Blessed is the man who trusts in Him!” [1] and that there was an antidote for the paralyzing baggage I had carried around for so many years.

After many trials and failed attempts in my search for answers, what I found that helped me more than anything was God’s Word.

His Word became my lifeline. More than once when I was on the edge of despair I found comfort in one verse or another, as God made his word come alive in my heart. Despite the storms of life that have raged, He has provided hope and comfort like no other, and he has proven himself to be a friend that sticks closer than a brother. [2]

Perhaps you have experienced some type of trauma or a devastating, paralyzing loss in your own life. If you have, may I encourage you to take one small step in His direction?

I promise you that if you will trust Jesus with just a tiny portion of your hurt,doubt, and fear, He will in no wise cast you off.

Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”  Matthew 11:28-30

As you begin to trust Him more, you will begin to understand that in spite of your circumstances, it is the Father’s plan to give you a future and a hope. [3]

Be blessed everyone,

Ron

[1] Psalm 34:8

[2] Proverbs 18:24

[3] Jeremiah 29:11

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Of course you can do it your way,but…

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Human nature being what it is, most of us are pretty sure we know what’s best for ourselves don’t we? Think back to when you were a teenager for example. Your parents no doubt tried to steer you the right way so that you would avoid making mistakes. Or perhaps a teacher tried to influence your choice of careers.

If you’re like most teenagers you probably let all of this sage advice go in one ear and out the other, because after all, you knew more than your parents or your teachers. Am I right?

God also wants what’s best for us, and He surrounds us with influences in the hope that we will pay attention, learn, and avoid making bad choices.

The Word of God, for example, is a powerful influence on our behavior. If we will heed its instructions, we can be assured of avoiding the negative consequences so often associated with making “less than intelligent decisions”.

Sometimes however, we deliberately choose to ignore God’s instructions. When we do this, we can be sure that there will be serious consequences to follow. For example, take the story of Israel and their desire to have a king reign over them.

In the book of 1st Samuel, chapter eight, we find the children of Israel telling Samuel that they wanted a king to rule them, just like all the nations round about them had. By this time, Samuel had grown old and had appointed his son’s judges over the people, but the people rejected them because they were only in it for the money and prestige.

Now, this demand for a king did not sit well with Samuel, and so he prayed to God about the situation. Here is the Lord’s response to Samuel’s prayer:

And the Lord said to Samuel, “Heed the voice of the people in all that they say to you; for they have not rejected you, but they have rejected Me, that I should not reign over them”.             1st Samuel 8:7.  NKJV

God told Samuel to give the people what they wanted. In essence, they were going to be permitted to have it their way. Up until now Israel was a theocracy, meaning God Himself was their ruler.

So desirous were they of the nation’s surrounding them and their monarchical systems of government, Israel rejected God in favor of man.

And God said “OK”.

There is, however, more to this story. For certain, they would indeed have it their way by having a king rule over them. But listen to what they were getting for a king.

Samuel told the children of Israel that their new king would take their sons and daughters, their fields and vineyards, even their sheep and donkeys (verses 10-17).

Doesn’t sound like such a good deal after all, does it?

So harshly would their new king deal with them, that Samuel told them the day would come when they would cry out in despair over their new leader.

But the Lord would not hear them in that day (verse 18).

Scary stuff there, when God refuses to listen to their voices any longer. When I really think about it, there aren’t too many things that I can think of that are worse than God turning a deaf ear to me!

How many of us are familiar with the expression “be careful what you wish for, you just might get it”? I’d say Israel could identify with that particular saying.

The moral of this story of course is that we are free to choose who will lead us. We are free to choose this world’s leaders, or we can choose God. We can freely choose to be like everyone else, or we can choose to be identified with God.

It really does come down to choices.

Choices…and their consequences that is.

Have a blessed day, in Jesus name!

Ron

 

 

How to choose between the wide and the narrow:part 3

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In my previous two posts I’ve talked about the Narrow Gate and the Wide Gate,and how one leads to life and the other leads to destruction.

I’ve talked about who the “many” are that are heading towards destruction,as well as who the “few”are that are on the pathway to life.

I’m going to conclude this simple little study in this post by explaining how we can be certain we are choosing the Narrow Gate that leads to life.

So, how do we correctly choose between the Wide Gate and the Narrow Gate? I’ve thought long and hard about this, not wanting to offer up a great theological dissertation, yet at the same time not wanting to minimize what I believe to be the greatest decision you will ever make.

So at the risk of being guilty of over simplification, here goes:

Accept Jesus Christ as your Savior.

Wait…that’s it? That’s the key to choosing right verses wrong? That’s how I choose the Narrow Gate?

Can it really be that simple? What about all the rules, the do’s and don’ts? What about joining a church? Surely there is some sort of list I need to check off! And what about those good deeds I keep hearing others talk about?

No, none of that is necessary in order for you to make the right choice.

Certainly, after salvation there are important decisions to be made. That is another topic for another day. We’re talking about making that first step, and that first step is saying YES to Jesus.

Everything, and I mean everything, is secondary to accepting Jesus as Savior. The Christian life begins and ends with Jesus.

Now I’m going to say something here that may shock you. For all I know, it might anger you. Or worse!

If any blogger, pastor, preacher, teacher, Rabbi, priest, or any other religious leader tells you that their way is the only way, I want you to RUN as fast as you can away from that person.

The ways of men are simply that. They are not God’s ways no matter how well intentioned they may be. Proverbs 14:12 tells us that There is a way that seems right to a man, But its end is the way of death.

Jesus Himself declared that “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.   John 14:6   NKJV

The most important decision or choice you will ever make in this life is the decision to accept Jesus as your Savior. He is the Narrow Gate that leads to life, and He invites everyone to enter this gate.

Be blessed everyone,

Ron