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Marking a Tragedy

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Tragedy:

an event causing great suffering, destruction, and distress, such as a serious accident, crime, or natural catastrophe.

“a tragedy that killed 95 people”   [1]

Do you know someone who has suffered a tragedy? Most of us do.

Perhaps it is you that has suffered a tragedy? I know I have. Several of them actually.

How does one recover from a tragedy? Does one ever really recover from a tragedy?

Are there people who never recover from a tragedy? I believe there are.

I know someone like this. This person keeps a “death calendar”. Every year when it’s time to buy a new calendar, this person will go through it marking the dates when the people they loved died. This is a “death calendar”.

Certain dates are marked with personal notes such as “this is the day my world ended”. This day is marked for mourning and little else. This is a day for closing the curtains and sitting in the dark, alone with the distant memories of the day when life stopped.

This is what I refer to as Marking a Tragedy. An event so traumatic that it causes us to put our life on hold. We don’t move past it because we either cannot or will not.

All life now centers around the tragedy. Indeed, it has become larger than life itself.

In a lifetime of dealing with my own personal tragedies and in observing the tragedies of others,I have come to the conclusion that there is a very fine line between those who suffer tragedy and never recover, and those who suffer tragedy and go on to lead productive lives.

So I wonder, what makes the difference? Why doesn’t everyone recover from their personal tragedy and go on to lead a fulfilling and productive life?

The answer, at least in part, I believe is found in the word purpose. I like the word purpose because it speaks of something, a force perhaps, beyond our own limitations.

When we realize our purpose for being, it propels us forward in life and gives us the necessary strength and courage to overcome life’s challenges. And yes, that includes tragedy.

In my own life, I can say with the utmost confidence that a sense of purpose has kept me grounded and on track(for the most part), enabling me to move beyond situations that otherwise would have likely destroyed me.

As a young man of 23 I accepted the call into ministry, a decision that completely altered my life. For the first time, I had discovered purpose and that discovery was instrumental in seeing me through some very hard times.

For example, I quickly learned that accepting this calling was not met by those nearest to me with the same joy and excitement as I felt. Far from it actually. Because of their “lack of enthusiasm” towards what I was sure God was calling me to do, it caused me to question everything about what I believed. So much so, that I wanted to throw in the towel at least once or twice a month.

Yet for all of that, and there was a lot of “that”, I could never shake the sense of purpose that I felt when doing the work of the ministry. In ways that I could not understand, it seemed that every time I was ready to quit that sense of purpose would become even stronger.

As the weeks and months turned into years and now into decades, several events have occurred in my life that meet the definition of tragedy. At least a couple of those events should have destroyed my life, and even now they continue to try to hinder me.

As someone who has spent a great deal of time studying the scriptures, I have found them to be the antidote for life’s challenges. I have lost count of how many times God’s word has pulled me back from the brink.

Like the time I was sitting in my living room, Bible in my hands, crying out to the Lord that I couldn’t take it any longer. Having been blindsided by what was soon to turn into yet another tragedy, I had reached the end of my ability to hold on.

It was then that I felt the urge to turn in my Bible to the book of Job. Now, those of you who know Job’s story also know that this isn’t the most likely place to turn for encouragement when you are at the end of your rope.

Yet when I opened the book of Job to the 38th chapter, I saw it. In verse 1 it says “The the Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind, and said”,

Did you see the “hidden message” that I so desperately need to hear from the Lord that day?

While all along I had been asking, pleading with the Lord to take away my pain and hurt, the Lord used this verse to let me know that He could speak to me in the midst of my storm. He didn’t need to wait until the storm had passed, He could speak out of my storm!

As the realization of this truth became more clear to me, I literally jumped up out of my chair shouting “YES”! I knew then that everything was going to be alright. No, the storm didn’t dissipate immediately, in fact the worst was yet to come. That didn’t matter however, because I was assured that God had a purpose for me and therefore would see me through this tragedy.

My prayer for you today is that you will understand that you have purpose. You are needed, and you are most certainly loved. Life may have knocked you down to the point where you don’t want to get back up. Get back up anyway.

Seasons come and seasons go. Seasons of joy, excitement, and hope, along with seasons of tragedy, despair, and discouragement. Seasons are, however, just that. A season.

I leave you with the 2nd half of Psalm 30:5…

”Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning”.

Be blessed this day, in Jesus name!

Ron

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Fight the battles God has called you to fight

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But leave the rest to Him!

Be honest, how many of us tend to take on more than we should? How many of us get caught up in certain causes to the point of being emotionally ready to take on any giant that dares get in our way?

I know I am guilty of this. Certain subjects that I am very passionate about, like poverty, child abuse, abortion, and clergy sex predation are all subjects that tend to send me into full attack mode.

I imagine you have your own list as well, don’t you?

Yet other than to write a few words on a little-read blog, my efforts go largely unnoticed. Well, that and my blood pressure rises.

To be sure, I am a passionate person who always roots for the Davids in their struggles against the worlds Goliaths. Frankly, I think the world could use a few more passionate people who care about those who have no real voice. So, in that sense I don’t apologize.

Where I get into trouble though is when I stray too far out of my lane and end up in areas far beyond my capability to offer anything in the way of real,or tangible help.

And lets be real here, words only carry so much weight when they aren’t backed by substantive means.

To be the most effective, it’s important to focus on what we do best, or from a strictly spiritual perspective, to focus on what God has called us to do. If we stay in the lane to which we have been assigned, the Lord will take our efforts and bless and prosper them far beyond what any of us could do on our own.

When we try to take on areas outside of what God has equipped us to deal with however, well lets just say the results are almost always less than stellar.

It’s true, all of us have unique giftings from God, and every one of us is but one small part of the body of Christ. As such, we all have a specific role to play in order for this body to function at its highest capacity. [1]

Looking at the church, I find it both interesting and fascinating to see how the Lord puts this body together in a way that works best for His purpose. To see people who have specific gifts and talents use them for the Kingdom is nothing short of amazing!

God does things strategically, meaning there is purpose to how He places people in this body. Even though there are times when we may question this purpose because we cannot see the future, we can rest assured that all things work together for good.  [2]

There is a saying that gets tossed around the church that says to “bloom where you’re planted”. There is a lot of wisdom in those few words. For us to get to the point that we “bloom” requires time, patience, and sometimes plain hard work!

Far too often however we allow our eyes to become fixated on the green grass on the other side of the fence. When this happens we begin to doubt that the place where God has planted us will ever measure up to what we perceive to be on the other side of that fence.

That’s why we are to stay in our lane. We must focus on the battle, or work, that the Lord has called us to and not allow our attention to be diverted. Do what the Lord has called you to do and know that the rest is in His hands.

There remains a great harvest to be gathered before the coming of the Lord. By staying in our assigned lane, allowing the Lord to work in and through us, and fighting the battle we have been called to fight, the body of Christ is best equipped to reach this harvest.

Don’t try to take on more than you can handle. Be faithful in that which you have been called to do.

And leave the rest to Him!

Be blessed in Jesus name,

Ron

 

[1] Romans 12:4-6, 1st Cor. 12:12, 27,

[2] Romans 8:28

There’s got to be more…

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How many of you ever feel like “is this it, is this all there is”?

I feel this way almost every single day. Not because I want more stuff. I don’t need another car. I have no desire to get a boat. My house is plenty large enough, and my wife has decorated it to rival anything a professional interior decorator could do.

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In truth, I have more than enough of everything.

Yet still I feel wholly unsatisfied, as though something is calling me to seek for that which is not from here. To commune with One far greater than I. To launch out and into the deep and discover who knows what.

Deep calleth unto deep at the noise of thy waterspouts: all thy waves and thy billows are gone over me.  Psalm 42:7

You have no idea how many times I’ve wished I could be like most people I meet up with, who seemingly just go through life without much care for things that are beyond the necessities of life.

For reasons that I’ve yet to completely uncover, God did not wire me this way. For some reason I care deeply about what matters most to God. Some say far too deeply, but I say how do you turn it off?

I care deeply about the Church, for example. I care that the church of Acts has all but disappeared from this planet. I care that expressing the love of Christ to those who are undone without him is now considered to be the job of the paid clergy.

I grieve that our pulpits are filled with people looking for a paycheck instead of a city whose builder and maker is God (Heb. 11:10). My heart breaks to see people who’ve been broken by sin come into God’s house and leave the same way they came.

I care deeply about the plight of children who are abused, exploited, and violated, oftentimes by adults who are charged with loving them and nurturing them into adulthood. Jesus said in Luke 18:16…

But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Suffer little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.”

My heart breaks upon hearing or reading of what our children are enduring at the hands of drug crazed parents. Just yesterday, I read where a mother was charged with selling her young daughter for $6,000 because they had no other way to get money to survive on.

“Suffer the little children” indeed.

I care deeply that millions will lose sleep and stand in line to buy a new TV,  yet will not give a dollar to support a food bank or local missions outreach. Watching people trample one another to be among the first customers in the store is heartbreaking because I know there is a Savior wondering why they don’t run to Him with the same zeal.

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The Apostle Paul said that he had learned to be content in whatever state, or condition he happened to be in at the time (Philippians 4:11). I suppose some would say that I should apply this to my own life. To be sure, so far as the things of this world go, I am very content.

It’s the things that are not of this world however that I long for more of.

Because there just has to be more.

Be blessed, in Jesus name

Ron

A Tale of two Paths

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The Path you have chosen.

The Path that has been chosen for you.

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I’ve always been somewhat envious of those who carve out their own career path in life. Of course, I suppose all of us do this to a certain extent, whether intentional or not.

I’m referring however to those individuals who are driven to the point of mapping out their lives, setting specific goals, and then working their tails off to achieve those goals.

I’m sure you’ve heard someone talk about how all they ever wanted to do was to accomplish this or that, and years later they finally realized their dreams.

There’s something very special about a person who can maintain such discipline, especially from the perspective of a lot of us who don’t seem to have that specific gene in our DNA.

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When I was much younger, I too thought I had my life mapped out. I dreamed of making a career in the outdoors as a professional bass fisherman. If that didn’t work out my back up plan was to be a writer, a dream I still wish to pursue.

As is often the case however, things didn’t turn out the way I had envisioned. A little thing called LIFE got in the way, and I said goodbye to fishing and hello to a real job and real responsibilities.

In spite of the twists and turns, the ups and downs, and a few “falling off the cliffs” thrown in for good measure, one day God came knocking on the door of my heart.

And I’ve never been the same since.

It was obvious right from the start that God had another plan for my life. If you’ve ever sensed that God has called you to a higher purpose, then you understand what I’m saying.

When you sense that call, your perspective on life changes because you come to the realization that you are part of something much bigger than anything your own plans could ever accomplish.

When you yield to the call, you are relinquishing control of your destiny and placing it firmly in His hands. And when you take that final step of submission, that’s when it hits you: Someone much higher and much greater than you has had a plan for your life all along.

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This is not to say that allowing God to call the shots is always an easy thing to do, because it is not. There is a lot of fear in letting go of the reigns, and I have observed (and learned) that this is actually a work in progress.

Yet there is also a great calmness that comes over us when we allow the Master to take control. A peace that passes all understanding is how Paul referred to it when preaching to the Philippian church.

And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.  Philippians. 4:7

Perhaps you’re in a place where your life plans are just not working out the way you thought they would. Who knows, maybe you’re at the point where you’re ready to start over with a brand new plan.

If you are, I pray that you will give God an opportunity to show you the plan that He has for your life. Give Him the chance to show you the difference between you charting your own course, or carving your own path, and Him choosing the best path for your life.

I guarantee you that you will not be disappointed!

Be blessed,

Ron

 

 

 

 

 

A Measure of Faith

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By faith Abraham obeyed when he was called to go out to the place which he would receive as an inheritance. And he went out, not knowing where he was going.

By faith he dwelt in the land of promise as in a foreign country, dwelling in tents with Isaac and Jacob, the heirs with him of the same promise;

10 for he waited for the city which has foundations, whose builder and maker is God.   Heb 11:8-10

Abraham was a doer of the Word,not just a hearer of the Word. He set out on a journey not knowing where or how it would end,but secure in the knowledge that Jehovah would guide his every footstep.

Abraham fully embraced his calling and acted upon it as though nothing else mattered.A man like that has sold out to a higher purpose,his new mission that of a divine mandate far beyond the scope of this present world.

While Abraham sojourned in a strange land he never took his eyes off the prize. Surrounded by strange people,customs,and religions as he walked this new land of promise,he was not to be deterred in finding that city whose builder and maker is God.

Abraham’s heart had been set ablaze with an all consuming passion to obey a calling not of this world.Funny thing about a man’s calling;it will engulf him to the end of his days should he choose to accept it and follow it.Little else will matter to him except for the assignment he has been given.He will sacrifice his health,his wealth,opportunities,and to an extent even his loved ones,all is secondary to the call. In short,he is consumed by it.

It will also consume him to the end of his days should he decide to reject it, or even worse, only partially embrace it.This calling is always at the forefront of his mind.It permeates his being in a way not easily understood by those around him.His thoughts are never completely on his work,his social status,even his family.Every thing he does or doesn’t do is weighed against the calling he has received.

In short,unless he fully embraces his calling he is like a double minded man, tossed to and fro on the waves of the tempest that ever churns within him.Doubt clouds his vision. Compromise is the norm.His life one of restless hesitation.Perpetually weighed on the scales of indecision.

Lord,grant unto me a sliver of the measure of faith that Abraham displayed.